Two Moms go to a playground with their kids, ages 2 – 4. One child asks his mom to help him use the fire pole, so she holds him the whole way down. The second child asks the second mom for help. She says, “I’d be happy to teach you how to do it, but I’m not going to do it for you. Do you want to learn?” Second-Child hesitates before agreeing. Second-Mom explains how to reach out, hold the pole nice and high, then step out while holding on, wrap feet and legs around the pole, and gently loosen the hold to slide down. She guides her son’s grip, holds her hands out to catch him in case he needs it, but tries not to actually do the work for him. By the third try, he’s doing it with enough confidence that she can sit back and watch.